Today is all about giving yourself grace. I’ve been trying to focus on this topic for the past few weeks and it’s really tough. Not only giving myself grace but giving others the grace they deserve and acting with true grace and composure.
It’s. Hard. Work.
A constant circle of focus on thinking, forgiving, and speaking with kindness to myself and others. It’s worth it though because it gives me energy but it’s not always easy to react with grace instead of emotion.
The definition given by the Merriam-Webster dictionary for grace is:
Grace: unmerited divine assistance given to humans for their regeneration or sanctification.
It’s also important to understand the definition of regeneration and sanctification is:
Regeneration: spiritual renewal or revival
Sanctification: the state of being sanctified (to free from sin)
So, to give someone grace really means to forgive and renew your spirit toward another soul. This “person” can be anyone; including yourself. Each moment we are faced with a decision to act or react. If we chose to act with grace instead of react with anger – we are living a life of grace. This is a true talent we must learn to master as it gives us inner peace.
I’ve been implementing this into my daily activities at work and at home. For example, I was faced with a situation at work where a woman was giving me rude responses via email, never responding to me by name and not answering my questions. So instead of being rude right back to her – I always started my emails with “Hello ______! How are you today?” and ending them with “Thank you for all of your help and hard work to accomplish our event!” If anything, it made me feel better knowing that I was being a kind person instead of being rude.
And, this week I’ve decided to just pick up the phone and call her when I need something – and this is working much better. She is much more kind over the phone. So, in giving this woman grace and continuing to act with grace myself – we have developed a nice working relationship.
Most of the time, all people need are some positive vibes and ray of sunshine in their day. So, the next time you’re faced with a tough situation that upsets or angers you – try these four steps.
- Deep breath, first.
- Next, ask yourself, why is this person treating me this way?
- Then, how would I want someone to respond to me if I were this person?
- Respond with kindness, always.
With grace and kindness always, XOXO,